Eye Of The Storm
First, this blog is NOT about the calm center of a hurricane known as the eye. It is about the entire storm that parents experience. For some parents, storms start way back in the pre-teen years and last until… well, for a long time.
This is where I come in. I’m a disruptor of sorts. I expose and break old patterns that aren’t working. Think of it like a dance move that is repeated over and over and over until it becomes so stale that no one wants to dance at all. (Breakdown of family life.) I come into families’ lives and make those patterns known that are causing families to be…um…stale.
Stale.
Stagnant.
Unproductive.
Unhealthy.
And, very, very, very unfun.
The Land of Limitation is prevalent so much that it emanates all aspects of family life. And, dulls it down to a level of just surviving.
THEN, I introduce new dance moves. I suggest specific-to-individual-families’-personalities ways to interact that make family life invigorating, progressive, dynamic, not just productive, but vibrant, not just healthy, but thriving, and, of course, fun. It’s gotta be fun for everyone.
It’s Not All About Strategies
My parenting philosophy and style, developed over decades of teaching, writing, meditating, and parenting, aren’t all about strategies, however. (Even the whole concept of strategies can become stale.) I bring to families a whole lot more because, empowered parenting is really about understanding the all-permeating energy of Life, appreciating Who We Really Are, and knowing the purpose of Life that make the strategies come to life.
The strategies are not just, “We gotta try this new thing,” but a whole new, off-the-charts, multi-dimensional way to viewing each family member’s reason for:
- Being alive in a body
- Being a member of this specific family unit, and
- Acknowledging what’s to come
What Are The Storms Of Life, Anyway?
In this blog, storms are representing all the uncomfortable situations of life. Too many of them to write a complete list, but you know…death, divorce, moving, loss of job, betrayal, incarceration, financial worries, etc. No shortage of life drama on Earth.
The eye of the storm isn’t about finding reprieve in the midst of the storm while knowing more storm is coming (the other half of the hurricane’s fury), it is understanding the storm itself. What is the storm trying to say? What does the storm want to reveal? Why did the storm arrive? What is in the storm for us as a family unit to use for our collective and individual benefits?
This alone brings divine meaning to all the storms of life! No more victimhood…ever. Never ever again. Storms come and go not for no reason, but for reasons! For our benefits! For divine purposes!
My Divorce Process Example
For example: one of the hardest times of my life was going through the divorce process. But, before the divorce process, there was the deciding to or not to divorce. Talk about an uncomfortable time! Talk about drama! Talk about a wonderful opportunity for personal growth! At the time, I didn’t realize just how much I would grow from the experience. Today, I am so grateful for the experience.
My incredibly, all-encompassing storm was one of the largest personal growth opportunities for me. Once I sat down with the correct counselors, I learned to understand what this storm truly was and all the storms since and all the storms to come. I asked the hard questions: What was the storm trying to say to me? What does my storm want to reveal? Why did the storm arrive? What is in the storm for me and for my family’s collective and individual benefits?
I looked behind the storm to the why instead of the what. I looked for its meaning. I looked why the storm was in my life. I found meaning and lots of it.
So, when a child screams in anger, looking at the screaming isn’t helpful at all. It’s looking behind the screaming that gives the anger a message, a purpose, a meaning, and, ultimately, a solution.
This is the eye of the storm. Literally, where are the eyes looking? Where are we parents looking when a child steals? When a child swears? When a child comes home late? When a child cheats on a test? When a child beats up another student? When a child says, “I hate you!”
If the eye is on the storm itself, then no solutions will be found, but complaints, blame, guilt, and even more anger will be found.
Confusion lives in the action of a storm. Clarity lives in the behind-the-scenes view of the storm.
Again, what is the storm trying to say?
What does the storm want to reveal?
Why did the storm arrive?
What is in the storm for us as a family unit to use for our collective and individual benefits?
(Really Important) Bonus Questions:
Do you know Who You Really Are?
Do you know why you’re in a body?
Do you know your life’s purpose?
Do you know who all the other 8 billion and counting people on the planet are?
Can you answer what is actually going on with Life?
Assistance For My Overwhelmed Self
Because I had my eye on the storms of my life and two key people showed me other ways to look at my personal storms, I began a life journey like no other. Literally, like no other. It’s solely (soul-ly) my journey. I stopped looking at the storms and began looking at the behind-the-scenes.
And, wow! There was A LOT to see there!
Now, I do the same for others with my specialty being families. (https://lizabethjenkinsdale.com/multi-dimensional-parenting/)
This is what makes my parenting philosophy, strategies, and program different than others. It’s all-encompassing, it’s comprehensive, and it’s life-changing.
Land of Possibilities
I help families not only improve, but create a life that exists in The Land of Possibilities all the time because they now know Who They Really Are, why they’re in bodies, their purposes, who all other beings on Earth are, and what exactly Life is.
These families have family cultures that say, “We are in this together.” “We handle all situations, encounters, and issues with empowerment.” “We know the storms of life are for our benefit and address them by looking behind the storms instead at them.”
This process takes time. It’s why I devote 3 months to each family. Once a week we meet or zoom. Almost always, there are follow up emails and texts during the week. I meditate about each family prior to the once a week sessions.
How many counselors meditate about the families they serve? Hmmmm….
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